My teenager spent more time on her phone during the lockdowns and now after school to keep in touch with friends. What is the best way to talk with them about keeping their time online positive?

“Lockdown has been a time for reflecting on what matters to us and how we can sustain important connections under difficult circumstances. So now is a good time to ask your teenager what she learned about what matters to her – who did she stay in contact with, what did it mean to her, and what did she miss.

Teenagers are facing a big transition, so give them time to talk about their own insights before figuring out together how to build on the lessons of lockdown and find constructive ways to use technology rather than let technology use you, and to find the positive balance that works best for your particular circumstances.

A gamer will continue to spend hours online. A sporty child may be desperate to get outside. Some will be making resolutions to avoid toxic communication habits. Most want to return to seeing their friends in person. Try to recognise your teenager’s motivations and support their choices. Don’t forget to review your own phone use at this time, and make some beneficial changes for yourself. You can share your own hopes and efforts with your teenager too!”